I’ve noticed lately that a number of people online seem to be crying “Bully!” any time someone disagrees with them on social media or forums.
The biggest problem I have with that is when someone says they’re being bullied because of a single disagreeing–and maybe disrespectful–comment from someone they don’t even know, in my opinion they’re minimizing what people who are actually being bullied go through. It becomes like the boy who cried wolf; if someone says “Look, I’m being bullied” because another commenter said they’re stupid or that their point doesn’t make sense, people will think “Oh, that isn’t so bad”…and then when someone who is systematically and repeatedly being worn down and even physically assaulted by the same person or group says they’re being bullied, people might also think, “Oh, I know what bullying is. That isn’t so bad.”
Hopefully by now most people know what bullying really is. And I don’t mean to discount how someone feels about a comment made to them. But when teens–and even younger children–are taking their own lives because of bullying, because they are being subjected to daily or almost daily namecalling, threats, insults, and physical assault, saying “I’m being bullied” because someone you’ve never interacted with before calls you an idiot on a Facebook thread seems a little bit over the top.
If someone tells you they don’t like you, or don’t like your opinions, they probably aren’t bullying you–unless that’s part of a pattern of behavior from that same person, which is clearly an intent to make you feel like crap. If it’s just one statement from someone you don’t even know, it’s just words on a screen.
Before you cry “bully!” stop and think about whether you’re actually being bullied. The comment might make you feel bad, and your feelings are valid–but is it really bullying? Or is it just some random comment from a random person that you can try to ignore?