So Proud

On Friday, the United States Supreme Court declared that every adult has the right to legally marry the person they love. Regardless of whether it’s a man marrying a woman, or a man marrying a man, or a woman marrying a woman.

EVERY adult has the right to be legally married in the United States now. In EVERY state.


Growing up, I had three “uncles” (my dad’s best friend and the friend’s partners) who were in a committed triad. Not a typical, mainstream relationship arrangement. Not something most people in the 1970s-1980s would have even understood, let alone accepted. But those three men had, as I saw it, a healthier relationship than my parents. They were together for decades.

Even if only two of them had been together, they couldn’t have married. No matter how much they wanted to. Back then, legal marriage could only happen between a man and a woman. Even though they lived in Massachusetts, which was the first state in the country to legalize same-sex marriage, they lived here *before* that happened. By the time Massachusetts legalized same-sex marriage, my dad’s friend had passed away and the other two men had moved to a different state.

I found out a couple years ago that one of the other two men had also passed away. I don’t know if the third is still alive at this point or not, but I hope so. I hope he lived to see this happen. And I wish his partners could have as well.

Right now, I’m so proud of my country for recognizing and acknowledging that love is love, and that all loving adult couples should have the right to have their union recognized by the law. That all should have the right to share parental rights, to say goodbye to their loved ones in the final days, to share property. To share their LIVES in a way that’s legally recognized.

I’m proud for those who fought for this. I’m proud for those who have always believed this is how it should be. I’m proud to be able to say my kids live in a world where they can marry whomever they want.

When I heard the news on Friday, I cried. I don’t think I was the only one.